this is going to sound really synical but it is my observation.
when lesbians first come out they are all gung ho about lesbian pride,
marchs, going to the gay bars, only hanging out with lesbians, etc.
I came out and have always lived in a Rural area, I never did the Gay or Lesbian Bar thing expect for a few times. However, at 23 I did meet my Now Life Partner at a Gay Bar in Berkely California. A story for another day.
I was never into Lesbian Pride, because there was no real way to express that, with few lesbians in my town or my geographical location and just trying to live my life, Out Pride was just not ever part of my daily routine.
I have never marched, though I am thankful for those who have fought and marched for my rights, and well I have never really hung out with only Lesbians, it was never really an option in my world.
once they find a girl friend or graduate college they tend to go into hibernation. as long as they have a girl friend they arent interested in anything or anybody else.
I do tend to hang out only with my Partner, partly because we don't have "Community" here and we don't have Lesbian Friends really, our friends are the kind that listen and laugh now and then but don't really get our lifestyle and secretly gringe at it, but really try and be the kind of straight folks that have lesbian friends and have "no problem with it". I hang out with my gal because she is the very intelligent, sweet, cracks me up and we are nose down everyday working on the computer, now and then we take the dog to the lake or we go out and get food. But most of the time since the spring of 2005 we have been immersed in the computer setting up our network and creating revenue on the internet.
We are together 24/7 in business and in life and I kind of like it that way for now. If there were lesbian commuity, and it was not Drama Filled or Click but just folks to visit with, have dinner .. whatever.. we would do that .. but if it is not healthy for us then we wouldn't.. I don't even know if I am making sense.
when they break up they suddenly come out of the woodwork and get back on the political lessy wagon. once again they find a g.f. and 2 days later go into hybernation and you dont see them til this relationship ends. do you see a pattern emerging here?
Relationship Does become the Priority, seems to be the goal to find and then once it is found we go into "hibernation" .. this is kind of human nature I guess. Your very right, but I am not sure if it is a bad thing ? I mean I just like hanging out with my gal, its my thing. It does not mean that other lesbians life is not important it is just what I do. I Love One Woman deeply and I enjoy being with her in "hybernation".
another thing they do is join lezzy social clubs but if there isnt someone they are attracted to in the group they simply move on. they are always looking for that cute thin popular dyke to hook up with.
Not Me, intellect, spirituality, compassion, intelligence, power those are what i am attracted to. If some are looking for the "hook up" scene then fine, that is where they need to be at that point in their life but as they age, they too, will become more aware of deeper issues, it is the evolution of Lesbian Life. We cannot be instant "Community" with all LGBT's, it is impossible, we can have compassion and tolerance and we can teach that to the "Haters" "those who fight us" and the straight folks who disapprove.
But let's face it, different diets - habits - interests - income brackets - passions - taste in music - backgrounds - life experience - age and many more factors into who we are besides the fact that we are Gay or Lesbian. So we cannot expect to be "friends" with all. I don't expect that, I simply want to show the world tolerance by first becoming more tolerant within our own community.
I must say, I don't personally know anyone who changed from female to male, I honor their experience and hardship. I care about what they go through. However, It is not something I would ever do. For me personally, I love me, so many folks give me a verbal thrashing.. It is up to me to love and accept me and it is not always easy in the world we live in.
I believe we came here with purpose, and that our life path has Great Purpose and Lesson and I have faith that I am the Sex I was meant to be. I love being a woman, I don't want a Penis, I don't want to be a man. I want to be a Woman Loving Women, I love women.
On that note, I have no idea what it feels like to need to be a man, to need to change myself physically, deepen my voice, remove my breast.. I don't know what those folks feel or go through and in that I have the greatest of compassion and respect. Whatever we can do to advise you on setting up "Community" for those folks we would be glad to.
the one who will gain them popular status. eventually these little darlings grow up and find a permanent partner and move to a rural area where theres no chance their partner will stray. they adopt a dozen cats, 4 dogs, and 2 children of multi-ethnic stature. by this time they are basically dead to the lesbian community. people are selfish and self centered these days.
I don't Give a Rats Ass about "popular status" ENOUGH with those games, those who still play in that Shallow Arena with with all that is going on in the world today, then that is their lesson. That is Not what the Out Lesbian Network is About, and it Never Will Be.
I have never been swayed by popular opinion and I never will be. My partner and I stand, and succeed in the face of constant Naysayers, Doubters, and those trying to tear us down, we will do the same with the Out Lesbian Network.
unless there is something in it for a lesbian (like loads of cute girls that look like 14 yr old boys) they just dont care. sorry but thats the world. i would be glad to join a group of 30+ lezzies, trans, bi and gays if i could only find one. so i guess im saying HELP!!!!! i have no community and im sick of being alone.
Maybe this is the community that is on the internet in the most places, and what you have seen and Awesome for them to have the Internet as a Tool to "hook up" to have "crushes" and act out fantasy, I wish them well and hope they have a good safe time.
The over 30 Lesbians were not born knowing the Internet, they are just getting into all this mumbo jumbo and techy stuff. They will Be here. The internet is a place to connect, to discuss to network and it does not need to be about whose Hot and whose Not, and what's in it for me, however basic human nature is, well if there is nothing here for me why bother, i get that so we create more here and they will come and check it out.
So if you are in a Niche that the Out Lesbian Network is not representing, create a blog, create a social network, tell your story, write your story and know that folks are listening and those who share your life experience will join you as they can. Keep your voice going BoyEdge, folks are listening.
Take Care out there
You Out Lesbian You
WE are Glad that You Are Here...
Crystal
OutLesbian.com
P.S - I am 38 and have been with my partner Leslie
for 14 Years this Spring... Leslie is 50, so we are
the Slightly Older Lesbians but we do Love and
Support all You Out Lesbians of ALL ages..
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